Author Pati Hope, whom I count as one of my deareast friends, is a bundle of vitality. She is the epitome of a person living life as well.
She is committed to helping others and to living her positive philosophy. She created September as self-care month and in her monthly newsletter has an army of followers at www.evolvetolive.com
I witnessed her philosophy in action recently when she and I had coffee with a mutual unhappy complaining friend. The contrast between Pati’s upbeat attitude toward life and his was dramatic and a good reminder of the value of living full out with enthusiasm.
She is an example of the attitudes and behaviors that serve those of us in the second chapter of life as well.
For more on achieving fulfillment in life; email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I’ll send you a free copy of the booklet “5 KEYS TO HAPPINESS IN RETIREMENT.”
A challenge many people face as they approach or are in retirement is asking themselves if they have enough money to be happy. I know this from the numerous interviews I’ve conducted with people entering into the second chapter of their lives.
This question has become significantly more problematic with the increased life expectancy we are now facing.
The answer to the question is as difficult as the one that asks; How long is a piece of string? With so many variables and unknowns it’s difficult, in spite of careful financial planning, to come up with a precise dollar figure.
We do have a means to reduce the stress that accompanies that uncertainty.
I am currently reading historian Yuval Noah Harari’s bestselling book Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind. He gives us a clue based on his studies; “One of history’s few iron laws is that luxuries tend to become necessities and to spawn new obligations.” I certainly have found this to be true in my own life. Harari goes on to say: “Once people get used to a certain luxury, they take it for granted. Then they begin to count on it. Finally, they reach a point where they can’t live without it.”
This is where we can change our own future. We can look at those former luxuries that have become our present necessities. Many of us are doing this by downsizing. That is kind of easy but the more difficult task is breaking the habits we’ve developed that cause us to insist on expensive vacations and eating out at 5 Star restaurants. These are just two examples. There are many of them in our lives and it behooves each of to examine our own habits and extricate ourselves from those that are most distressing.
It is not simple but the rewards make it worth it in the form of reduced stress.
A helpful book, I’ve found, is Charles Duhigg’s “ The Power of Habit.”
It has helped me to be less self-indulgent and more at peace with myself.
Perhaps it will do the same for you.
Note: I’m looking for additional input as I finish my latest book.
“5000 Years of Wisdom Finding Happiness in Retirement.”
What have you learned as you approach or are in retirement?
Send me your thoughts for possible inclusion in the book.
I’ve put together a booklet on my preliminary findings on the answers to retirement issues and would be happy to share it with you in hopes that you could provide me with some feedback that I can incorporate in my new book.
Email me at email@example.com and I’ll forward the booklet to you.
It was almost a year ago when Patricia and my two daughters led me into the TV room. “Sit down,” my wife said. I looked at my watch and protested, “we’ve got dinner reservations in 20 minutes.”
Michelle turned the TV on and played a surprise video that she had produced for my 80th birthday.
It was a series of recorded birthday wishes from a cross-section of important people from my past, family, friends, neighbors, associates, colleagues, and even former clients. Since we moved away from our home in Oregon to the warmer Southern Arizona climate, I hadn’t seen most of them in several years.
The impact of that experience, seeing and hearing from them brought up memories and feelings of happiness, joy, laughter, some sadness and nostalgia.
It reminded me that I am, today, a product of all those people and the thousands more, some of whom have passed on.
The interactions with all those people have shaped me into the person I am today. I know this is true for you as well.
We can mentally go back through the hallways of time, revisit those relationships and thank those people for their contributions to our lives.
We know that we are not the same people we would have been without their influence. We also know we will be the same people we are now in five years except for the new people with whom we meet and associate.
This insight affords us the opportunity to take two positive actions that will measurably and dramatically enrich our lives.
One: Contact those people, as I intend on doing, tell them how much they have meant to you and thank them for the contribution they’ve made to your life. Be as specific as possible. Give them an example. Do it with a handwritten note if possible or at least give them a call. I guess an e mail would be better than nothing. (I don’t think I’d tweet even if I knew how to do it.)
Number two: Review the people in your life right now and ask yourself what kind of impact are you having in their lives as you did in the lives of people from your past.
As you and I take these two positive actions, not only will they feel better, we will as well.
I don’t know if you relate to that word or not. If you are one of the 10,000 Baby Boomers who, every day, reach the traditional age of retirement, 65, or won’t hit it for another 10 years or have hit it in the past 10 or so years-my category; we need to talk.
Yogi Berra famously said; “The future ain’t what it used to be.”
Back when our fathers reached age 65 people typically got a gold watch and thanks for your 40 years of loyal service. They then bided their few remaining years in a rocking chair.
That is no longer the norm.
Most of us have not been with same company for anywhere near 40 years. In fact, most of us have had more than one career in different companies. We now continue to work or, given the increased life span medical science has given us, plan to find some other way to spend our time for the next 25, 30 years or more.
This increase in longevity and options open to us has created a whole host of opportunities and challenges for us in this “second chapter” of our lives.
I’m Byron Thompson and since my own “retirement”, 15 years ago, I’ve spent my time looking for the answer to the question I’ve heard over and over again, in doing the research for my next book on successful retirement. That question, in one form or another, is ‘What do I do now, now that I’m no longer a——?”
We don’t have any difficulty filling our days with activities but many times I’ve heard the lament; “Is this all there is?” I want my life to have more richness and satisfaction.”
I’ve put together a booklet on my preliminary findings on the answers to these questions and would be happy to share it with you in hopes that you could provide me with some feedback that I can incorporate in my new book.
Email me at tubachouse @hotmail.com and I’ll forward the booklet to you.
You are living in one of the most exciting, opportunity-laden periods of your life.
Your generation is reaching retirement at a rate of ten thousand per day. This so-called second chapter of life presents a host of possibilities and challenges that can serve to enrich your life.
“There is a tide in the affairs of men, which taken at the flood, leads on to fortune. Omitted, all the voyage of their life is bound in shallows and in miseries.” Shakespeare
I am writing a book geared to your interests and unique status in life. Before I publish this gem I want to be sure that the issues in the book are relevant. So I’d like to hear from those of you who have opinions, ideas or feedback.
The book contains strategies, techniques, philosophies and tools for living a full, rich, satisfying second chapter of life. I gathered the material from a large number of interviews with selected retirees.
It is being written in a fictional format because research show this is the most effective way to reach the people most affected by the impact of the changes taking place at the traditional age of retirement.
It is the story of a group of people participating in a retirement seminar on a luxury cruise ship, sailing from Miami to Barcelona.
Please send your comments to byronethomson.com.
In appreciation, for your help I’d be happy to send you a copy of “5 Keys to Retirement Happiness.” which has some of the preliminary ideas in the book.
Author of “Build Your Dream: 12 Essential Tools for Successful Living”